feat(apple/M2): opt-in background keep-alive (audio + video-drop + timeout)

Backgrounding a live session no longer freezes it when the user opts in: audio
keeps playing (UIBackgroundModes audio), the QUIC connection + pump stay live,
video decode is DROPPED, and a bounded timer auto-disconnects. Off by default.

- PunktfunkConnection.setVideoDropped/isVideoDropped: a tiny lock-guarded flag
  both pumps read every iteration. StreamPump (stage-1), Stage2Pipeline (VT +
  PyroWave) drain nextAU() for flow control but DISCARD the AU before any
  VideoToolbox/Metal work — the crash/jetsam-safe seam (no GPU off-screen).
- SessionModel.enterBackground(timeoutMinutes:) / exitBackground(): set the drop
  flag, mute the mic (privacy — SessionAudio.setMicMuted pauses the capture
  engine), arm a DispatchSourceTimer that disconnect(deliberate:false)s on fire
  (keeps host linger → fast late reconnect). exitBackground clears the flag and
  requestKeyframe()s; the pump's freeze gate auto-arms on the resumed
  frame-index gap so concealed frames are withheld until the IDR re-anchors.
  disconnect() cancels the timer + clears isBackgrounded.
- ContentView scenePhase driver (iOS): .background+streaming+setting →
  enterBackground; .active → exitBackground. scenePhase (not willResignActive)
  so Control-Center/app-switcher peeks don't start the timer.
- Settings → General (iOS-only keepAliveSection): toggle + 1/5/10/30 timeout;
  new keys backgroundKeepAlive (def off) / backgroundTimeoutMinutes (def 10).
- Info.plist: UIBackgroundModes [audio] + NSSupportsLiveActivities (for M3).

macOS swift build + swift test green (142 tests). The iOS-gated scenePhase
handler + settings section are not exercised by the macOS CI target (known §9
gap) — need on-glass verification (audio never gaps, video re-anchors <1s LAN,
timeout ends the session, phone-call audio-steal degrades gracefully).

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

clients/apple/Sources/PunktfunkKit/Connection/PunktfunkConnection.swift

@@ -534,6 +534,23 @@ public final class PunktfunkConnection {
         _ = punktfunk_connection_request_keyframe(h)
     }
 
+    /// Background-keep-alive video drop (opt-in). While true, both video pumps keep DRAINING
+    /// `nextAU()` (so QUIC flow control and host pacing stay healthy) but DISCARD each AU before any
+    /// VideoToolbox/Metal decode or render — the crash/jetsam-safe way to hold a backgrounded
+    /// session (audio keeps rendering; no GPU work off-screen). Set on `SessionModel.enterBackground`,
+    /// cleared on `exitBackground` (which then requests a fresh IDR; the pump's re-anchor gate
+    /// auto-arms on the resumed frame-index gap). Its own tiny lock — read on the pump thread every
+    /// iteration, written on the main actor; never contends the ABI/plane locks.
+    private let videoDropLock = NSLock()
+    private var videoDropped = false
+    public var isVideoDropped: Bool {
+        videoDropLock.lock(); defer { videoDropLock.unlock() }
+        return videoDropped
+    }
+    public func setVideoDropped(_ dropped: Bool) {
+        videoDropLock.lock(); videoDropped = dropped; videoDropLock.unlock()
+    }
+
     /// Feed each received AU's `frameIndex` (in receive order) so the client recovers from loss with a
     /// cheap reference-frame invalidation instead of always paying for a full IDR. On a forward gap —
     /// a `frameIndex` jump means the intervening frames were lost and the following AUs reference a