feat(clients): reachability-probed presence + shareable Decky host management

Add a bounded, trust-agnostic, mDNS-INDEPENDENT QUIC reachability probe and
surface it everywhere saved-host presence is shown, so a host reached over a
routed network (Tailscale/VPN/multicast-filtering LAN) no longer reads Offline
just because it isn't advertising — the display-side companion to the 0.8.4
dial-first connect fix.

Core:
- punktfunk-core: NativeClient::probe (bounded handshake; a real host answers even
  on trust mismatch, a wrong/closed/TCP-only port fails) + punktfunk_probe C ABI
  (ABI_VERSION 3->4, header regenerated).
- pf-client-core: trust::probe_reachable_many (parallel per-host sweep).

Presence pips now read `advertising OR probed-reachable`, refreshed by a ~10-12s
background sweep off the UI thread:
- Linux (relm4): ui_hosts probed map + HostsMsg::Probed sweep.
- Windows (windows-reactor): pf-probe worker -> HostsProps.probed.
- Apple (SwiftUI): HostStore.refreshReachability, driven by HomeView + GamepadHomeView .task.
- Android (Compose): nativeProbe JNI seam + periodic LaunchedEffect (LNP-gated),
  online dot added to the touch HostCard.
- Decky already probes via --list-hosts --probe.

Decky client: make the flatpak client's known-hosts store the single source of
truth via new headless CLI modes (--list-hosts / --add-host / --set-host /
--forget-host / --reset / --reachable). The plugin can now add a host by address,
edit/forget hosts, reset all state (keeping the client identity), and shows
probe-backed online pips — state is shared with the desktop client, not duplicated.

Also lands in-progress Android 17 LNP groundwork (targetSdk 37 +
ACCESS_LOCAL_NETWORK runtime flow, permission dialogs) that was already present in
the working tree.

Verified: cargo check + clippy clean (punktfunk-core, pf-client-core, linux,
android native); android assembleDebug BUILD SUCCESSFUL; decky typecheck + rollup
build clean; probe true/false-positive behaviour exercised against a live host.
Windows and Apple were not compiled locally (no MSVC/Xcode on this Linux box).

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

clients/apple/Sources/PunktfunkClient/Home/GamepadHomeView.swift

@@ -96,6 +96,14 @@ struct GamepadHomeView: View {
         .background { GamepadScreenBackground() }
         .onAppear { discovery.start() }
         .onDisappear { discovery.stop() }
+        // Reachability sweep (mDNS-independent) so routed/VPN hosts that never advertise still show
+        // Online — the console mirror of HomeView's `.task`; cancelled on disappear.
+        .task {
+            while !Task.isCancelled {
+                await store.refreshReachability(discovery: discovery)
+                try? await Task.sleep(for: .seconds(10))
+            }
+        }
         // The settings / add-host screens take over the controller (the carousel's `isActive`
         // gate above). iOS presents them full screen — the immersive console feel; macOS has no
         // fullScreenCover, so they become generously sized sheets over the dimmed launcher.
@@ -218,13 +226,16 @@ struct GamepadHomeView: View {
                 id: .saved(host.id),
                 title: host.displayName,
                 subtitle: "\(host.address):\(String(host.port))",
-                isOnline: discovery.advertises(host),
+                // Online = advertising on mDNS OR proven reachable by the probe (a routed/VPN host
+                // never advertises); the wake item is offered only when neither holds.
+                isOnline: discovery.advertises(host) || store.probedOnline.contains(host.id),
                 isPaired: host.pinnedSHA256 != nil,
                 isConnecting: model.phase == .connecting && model.activeHost?.id == host.id,
                 filled: true,
                 hasLibrary: true,
                 canWake: PunktfunkConnection.wakeOnLANAvailable
-                    && !discovery.advertises(host) && !host.wakeMacs.isEmpty,
+                    && !discovery.advertises(host) && !store.probedOnline.contains(host.id)
+                    && !host.wakeMacs.isEmpty,
                 activate: { connect(host) })
         }
         let discovered = discovery.unsaved(among: store.hosts).map { d in